Posts Tagged ‘Elise VanCise’

Sea Dragon drawing by Tristan VanCise

My best friend, sister in heart has a son the same age as mine. Our babies are going to be to become teenagers this year. During our chats we talk about our kids and what their doing.

So many times Rose would mention something about Matthew and I would reply. Just like Tristan. Tristan does that too. So often we began to wonder if they were supposed to have been twins.

I also began to wonder something else. Matthew is autistic. His mom would share their struggles, successes, and daily life of dealing with autism. I can’t even count how many times Rose would share with me and I would reply, “Just like Tristan.”

There are so many things that I noticed over the years with my boy that made him different. Not in a bad way. Tristan just never really seemed on the same social level as kids his age.

He gets along with almost everyone but a lot of the time other kids just don’t get him. He has a hard time getting them sometimes too. One thing is the repetitiveness that he has. If he says or does something that makes you smile or laugh he’ll continue to do it. Maybe not right in a row but I and guarantee that you’ll know it well enough to see it coming by the 50th pass.

He’s not trying to be annoying. Tristan just wants to make you happy again. One of his favorite things is helping someone. Whenever he asks if he can have something from the kitchen he never fails to ask if I would like anything too. Tristan is my sweetheart.

As I began to learn more about autism though my conversations with Rose the more I understood some of Tristan’s extreme behaviors. I call them extreme because they are more acute reactions than is considered “normal”.

Loud or sudden noises give him distress. When we got to the movie theater for example. Sometimes the action sequences of a film can get pretty loud. Tristan will cover his ears and sometimes get so upset he wants to leave. I mean tears in his eyes upset.

Rain and storms terrify him. I mean full blown panic attack, crying, have to go tinkle terrified. He’ll run in and out of the bathroom every 5 or 10 minutes because he’s so upset he has to go again.

At first I thought he was just being over dramatic. He’s a bit of a drama king, I tease he should be on stage doing Shakespeare. He always replies with a line from one of the plays, silly boy. But talking to Rose and sharing about our boys I’ve begun to see that these actions could be something else.

Thanks to my best friend, Rose and her willingness to share and put up with all my inquiries. I’ve learned new ways to see and deal with some of Tristan’s behaviors that I believe are autistic. Our lives have become less flustered. I think my son is just like Rose’s sweetie Matthew, autistic. I’m not worried like oh God there’s something wrong with my baby. It’s more like ohhhh that explains it.

We’re making appointments with his doctor to talk about having him evaluated for autism. I’m pretty sure it will confirm my suspicions and wonders and I’m okay with that. Because now instead of wondering we can say okay this is what it is and work on it together. Tristan and I can have a better relationship as mother and son and he can get more of what he needs to be all he can be in his life.

I’ll post again about our progress/findings/adventures on this path. And I’m sure it’s not the last time I’m going to say, “Hey, that’s just like Tristan.”

My heart is all a Twitter for this quicky blog. If you haven’t gotten the chance to check out what exactly all this chatter about the site www.Twitter.com is all about. It’s worth a look see. I’ve fallen into the vat myself!

Twitter is an on-line blog site. Not like this one where I can droll on and on and usually do… see there I go again. Twitter gives you only 140 characters to answer one question “What are you doing?” I see the expression on your face going… Yeah, okay…

It doesn’t sound like much but if you have family that lives in another place it’s a great way to see what each other is doing without the gigantic phone bill. You just log on and check your page for the latest “tweets” of the people you’re following. Now Twitter isn’t just for the average joe. There’s a lot of celebs that “tweet”.  Demi Moore and her hubs Ashton Kutcher  are regular Twetters. Actor/author Wil Wheaton, author Steven Johnson, Tour de France multi winner Lance Armstrong, comedian/actor John Cleese, author Elise VanCise and many more can be found right here for you and I to watch the little things in their lives they’re willing to share. (did you catch that shameless add with the big wigs there. tee hee.)  On Twitter stars aren’t off limits to their fans. You are free to give them a tweet and they may even tweet back! 

You can even track headlines with CNN on Twitter or get the latest on the new exhibits at the Smithsonian. Politicians use Twitter also to chat with the masses.  Senator John McCain tweets daily giving tidbits about his meetings or my personal fav the Top 10 list he gives of the hundreds of thousands of dollars wasted by the government.  For example $1, 427, 250. oo for genetic improvements of switchgrass…. huh? Well that’s a whole nother blog……

Even the President of the United States Tweets. Well his staff does it for him. Obama used Twitter though his campaign to keep up with the voters. The last Tweet was 43 days ago though. Brittany Spears is another Twitter but her PR staff posts the tweets. But everyone is tweeting from your neighbor, cousin, brother, mother, preacher, or teacher.  All ages and social status tweet. It’s a fun way to pass the time when you get on and see what your favorite people are doing right then. 

One does have to be careful as with all Internet vehicles like this there are those who would, prepare for the shock, seek to deceive the people. Just like on MySpace or FaceBook there are fake celeb accounts. There is a George Bush account that is so not George. Also Sara Palin three people claim to be her and another fake Tina Fey. 

Luckily this is the Internet with it’s great EVIL there are some folks who combat it with some good works. There are a few sites that you can go to and verify that yes indeedy it is the person you are tweeting.  Twitter Celebrities http://stuffthathappens.com/docs/faketwitter.html, is a great source of who’s faking it and who’s not. Tweets people…… not Harry and Sally in the cafe.

If you don’t want an account you can still follow the tweets with the Twitter addy of your celeb. Or there is even a web site that tracks their tweets for you.  Celebrity Tweet http://www.celebritytweet.com/, invites you to “stalk” celebs on Twitter.  They have all the latest tweets on their site or if you have an account they have links to the celebrities Twitter page for you to add them to your following collection.

I would love to follow Russell Crowe, Adrian Paul, David Caruso, or Peter Wingfield.  (okay, maybe not just on Twitter lol just kidding not crazy… okay, I’m crazy just not crazy that way)

Now I’m off to post this blog and then tweet links. Then I’m going to…. Well if you want to know that you’ll have to go http://twitter.com/fictionrulz and find out. Yup I’m all a Twitter.

So… What are you doing?